Monday, November 30, 2015


It seems amazing to me that today is the 41st anniversary of the day I got married.

I remember that time so vividly. I remember the planning, the work, the excitement-it still makes my heart flutter a little to remember how enthralled I was with this man and the idea that I would get to be with him forever. It was a good match as it turned out, and more importantly it was a willingness on both our parts to work on this relationship thing through all the ups and downs of it. It hasn't been a perfect marriage, if there even is such a thing, but they have, for the most part, been very happy years. And all the best things about my life have been a result of that union, with the exception of my original family. My children and grandchildren, and the person I am today, are a result of what happened forty-one years ago, for sure.

So it is something to celebrate. Because it is the bumpy times (and we all have them), the losses, the failures, the difficulties...balanced by the joys, the celebrations, and the easy times, that make us who we are now. We are the sum total of our life experiences and they shape us into unique beings who are often a far cry from the ones we started with. We grow and we change. And we hopefully get better. And that's because of a day forty-one years ago now that would change me forever. I really am not much like that young girl anymore. She was someone my children will never know. Yet when my husband looks at me I hope he still sees a young girl looking back at him.

Sunday, November 29, 2015


So the house is quiet today. Since Wednesday we've had no less than seven people in the house-at times as many as sixteen. Family was in and out all week-mostly in-which was hectic and crazy and really wonderful. We enjoyed every minute of it.

This morning the travelers pulled out of the driveway and we waved to them until the car was out of sight. I hated to see them go, as always. But there was work to do and we've been at it all day now. There are multiple loads of laundry and lots of vacuuming and picking up to do. I've cleaned out the fridge, tossing the leftovers that sustained us all week but will no longer be used. I need room now for other things.

I've finished up the wrapping so that's been crossed off my list. And I need to start cookie baking. Not sure that will happen today, but at the very least I shall start thinking about it.

One holidays now passed, but another is right on its heels. Time to buckle down and get things organized. Today is the beginning of Christmas for me. And am more than happy to say "Bring it on!"

Saturday, November 28, 2015

House tour

Today was the annual house tour put on by the East Hampton Historical Society. This event started over twenty years ago and for many years I worked at one of the houses as a volunteer. But since the kids went off to college I wasn't willing to give up my entire Saturday to work and instead I buy a ticket and attend it, touring the homes with a friend. In the past few years I've taken my daughters/daughters-in-laws, depending on who is here for the holiday.

Every year we are able to tour through some lovely homes in and around town. Some are tremendous, grand places that obviously are owned by very wealthy people. Others are lovely smaller homes, beautifully decorated and obviously loved. I have found that, despite the grandeur and impressively decorated mansions, it is the smaller ones that I really love. I think it's because I can identify with the people who live in these charming places. Walking around huge homes that have so many rooms it's difficulty to get oriented is fun, but so hard to imagine myself in. But the smaller ones are cozy and live able and I can totally relate. I can imagine myself in these bedrooms and these living rooms. And I can dream about having such lovely decor in my own home some day.

I find it comforting that I don't even lust after those big old rambling places. It's much better to see myself in something I fit into.

Thursday, November 26, 2015


A few of the many, many things I am so grateful for:

1. First and foremost, family and friends. They are what makes life worth the living.
2. A community that is not only beautiful, but embracing and protective. A community that cares.
3. Health. More appreciated now than ever at this age!
4. A busy life.
5. A relationship with God that keeps me centered, gives me purpose, and helps me grow.
6. Humor and good times.
7. A country where discourse and disagreement are not only encouraged, but protected.
8. Friends who can engage in discourse without anger or bitterness.
9. The ability to learn from my mistakes.
10. Parents who taught me how to survive in the world.
11. Enough money to pay the bills and dress myself but not enough to allow me to lose sight of humility and work ethic.
12. Music, which has helped me define myself for all these years.

Well, that's only some of what I have in my heart on this Thanksgiving day. No doubt there is more! Because once we sit and think about our blessings, the negatives in our lives quickly disappear.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone.

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Thanksgiving eve

The holidays are upon us as of today.

The family from away arrived last night-very late. We didn't get to see them until this mornings not. But it's been a busy day and it's not over yet. There are still things to do for tomorrow before I go to bed. And so it begins.

Theses next five weeks are going to be packed full of activities of all sorts. There will be parties to attend, community activities to help with, gifts to wrap, cookies to bake, and lots of people to spend time with. It's a busy, jam-packed time of the year, and I love every minute of it.

And it all started today. Hang on, it's going to be a ride!

Tuesday, November 24, 2015


Today has most certainly be colder than the most recent weeks have been. Today I could feel winter coming.

It began with grabbing the gloves from the loser. I haven't yet given in to the winter coat phase as many others have, so I was happy with an nice wool sweater. But gloves were a must.

Then it continued with the ice on my windshield. I sat waiting for the de-icer to warm up because I didn't have the energy to get the scrapper out and clean off the front and back windshields. Instead I sat for a good five minutes in the driveway, waiting for the heat to come up and the windshield to clear.

It's been a beautiful sunny day today though and the sky was clear and air crisp. It was the best of what November has to offer. It certainly has been unusually mild here this fall, but after all, it is Thanksgiving, and we've had blizzards in my memory on this very week. So I'm happy with the sun and the fact that I can still get away without my coat. Today was a beauty, and I'll gladly take it!

Monday, November 23, 2015


I started making lists today. A list of meals for the coming week. A grocery list. An errand list. Holidays always bring out the lists in me.

Family is arriving tomorrow night. The cupboards must be filled and menus filled out. There will be lots of people in and out of the house. It will be a wonderful holiday, filled with the presence of the people I love. These are my favorites times in life. But they do take some planning and preparation.

And so the lists are started. And tomorrow the items on the lists begin to be crossed off, one by one. Subtractions...and additions...will be made...and the holiday will be perfectly crazy, perfectly busy, perfectly tiring, and perfectly wonderful.